We all have our obstacles in life. Some are weighed down by them and some choose to fight and get through them. My dear friend, Daffny inspires me so much because she is such a fighter! When I first met her, she was a stay at home mom with 3 small children trying to find her glamorous side. Like many of us, she wanted to pick up a few pretty dresses and fix up her hair but she had her own obstacles.
Daffny was born with Charcot-Marie-Tooth Disease. She says,
"CMT affects the major nerves that go down your arms and legs. Nerves conduct the muscles and make them strong. Basically from my elbow to my hands and from my knees to my feet I am weaker than most people......My hands are sort of crooked (you really have to look hard to notice), I have trembles and shakes in them. I often find humor when one of my fingers starts to twitch for no reason..Crazy hands of mine!"
She wears plastic braces on her legs, which she had been used to hiding under pants all of her life. She said she could never wear pretty dresses and certainly never heels or pretty shoes because she has to wear her braces. She was afraid of what people would say or think about her and her braces and shoes.
I am not a "can't" person. When someone tells me I cant, I prove them wrong and I wanted to see her prove herself wrong. No woman should ever let her age, body size, disability or anything get in the way of her feeling beautiful and good about herself.
On her first trip to Missouri to visit me, I told her that I would get her in a dress and we'll see how many people talk about it. She came, wearing pants and during a photo shoot, I let her borrow a fabulous dress to highlight her Latina style. I've heard people say " she's glowing". Well this girl was glowing so bright, she could have lit up all of New York. She wore the dress with her braces and custom made shoes. It was like she was blooming in front of that camera.
The scariest part was going out for pizza after the shoot. Sure enough, a man came up to the table and talked to her. Not about the plastic things on her legs or "what's wrong" with her or the shoes. He told her how gorgeous she looked and that he loved her style. Read more about that photo shoot on Bunny's Victory
Some of us have a natural "I don't care what people think" attitude and some are always conscious of other people's ideas. Either our culture or our city dictates how people should be and what they should wear. Its not easy to be brave and develop an armor but she did it.
Now, Bunny runs all over New York in her colorful dresses and braces. Instead of being weighed down by the chunky plastic braces and shoes, she allowed them to work with her new found personal style and they've become her signature accessory.
She was recently featured in Vintage Life Magazine with photos of her in a dress and braces.
Since her hands are weak, she's still practicing her hair and makeup looks. Its not easy to hold an eye liner or pin curl hair with shaky, weak hands but she perseveres and every new vintage outfit is celebrated as a victory.
So inspiring! Bunny you are beautiful and victorious! Life is too short to not wear pretty dresses! xo
ReplyDeleteI had not actually even noticed the braces OR the shoes! I am always just staring at her frocks!
ReplyDeleteFab post x
She looks great! I am very proud of her. I know that some people think that clothes really do not matter, but it is easy to let the clothes you wear define you (in a good or bad way). So I am really glad that she was able to move past the pants and choose to dress in a way that pleases her instead of worrying about what other people may say/think.
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful post! It sounds like you two have a really good friendship, and I love the posts that feature both of you together! :) She is a real inspiration and a gorgeous woman!
ReplyDeleteYAY!!!! LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!! Bunny really is a fantastic woman. It is definitely a privilege to know her and be around her positivity. I love the relationship you guys have. Sisterhood is such a beautiful thing!
ReplyDeleteOh, Brittany, I'm almost sobbing now. And, Bunny, you are one hell of a fabulous woman! My mum has legs like you and have always worn dresses and heels. In fact she was told not to have children, but she wanted to, and got three. I don't anybody will think anything else than you are beautiful. A lovely weekend to both of you. :)
ReplyDeleteA lovely woman!!!! I love the fact that vintage help her to fight her fears!!!!
ReplyDeletebunny is sooo beautiful!!!
ReplyDeletea have big great huge respect for this brave woman!
What a great story! Thank you for sharing!
ReplyDeleteThis incredibly touching, eloquently written post brought tears to my eyes. I admire Bunny's strength, courage and style so incredibly much. Thank you for highlighting this amazing vintage loving woman so beautifully, dear Brittany. The world needs more uplifting, inspiring blog posts like this!!!
ReplyDelete♥ Jessica
Thank you sooo much to all of you! Your words of encouragement have meant a lot to me. I will carry them with me always!! And thank you Brittany for always being such a wonderful friend!! Muah! xox
ReplyDeleteWhat an inspiring story! Thank you for sharing. I so enjoy reading her blog and yours. You both inspire me all the time :)
ReplyDeleteHoly crap! I actually had to scroll back up after reading the first couple of paragraphs and LOOK! I didn't even notice! Y'all are oh so vintage and hot looking to notice small potato stuff like braces!!! Pffft! You're beautiful, both of you!!!
ReplyDeletegood on ya Bunny! looking sweet as always.
ReplyDeleteHaving seen these pictures and the article in Vintage Life I mostly want to meet Bunny so I can steal all her gorgeous frocks!
ReplyDeleteYou know i didnt notice the braces at first, i was looking at the dress! But thank you bunny for your inspring strength. You look amazing.
ReplyDeleteGot to go follow bunnys blog now. :-)
Thank you for sharing this inspiring story with us. Definitely we should all learn from Bunny and wear what we want instead of what conceals our defects.
ReplyDeleteI love Bunny and her amazing hair! She always looks like she just stepped of an album cover! I noticed the smile on her face way before I saw the braces on her legs. She inspires me to wake up and be pretty, no matter what the day brings. Glad you two found each other,friendship is hard to come by these days.
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